Quick to Forgive

That's me! Quick to forgive...that is, if it's me you've done wrong. Hurt my baby or hurt my husband and uh, well, I'm not so quick to forgive and I will NEVER forget it!


When my stepdaughter was in high school in Bangkok with us, she would come home from school and tell me about a friend that hurt her or worse yet a BOY that had hurt her. UGH!!!! I would still be upset when she was inviting them over again. Loyal, that's me. To a fault. My little bro would fight with his ex-wife and tell me. A few days later he'd expect me to be nice to her when I talked to her. HUH????


Last week a close friend of ours hurt my husband. REALLY hurt him. It was ugly, uncalled for and totally unexpected! I was SO, SO angry at this guy. I couldn't even look at him! Jorge was sad but he wasn't angry. Why was I?

Yesterday (6 days after it happened, SIX!!!) our friend called Jorge and left a message on his phone apologizing and asking Jorge to call him back. He called him immediately and all was forgiven. By Jorge. I heard the message and it was a beautiful apology. Why was I still angry? Maybe because I could still see the look of hurt and disbelief on my husband's face? Maybe because I had been with him all week as he relived it and retold it to me? I'm not sure. I do know that if it had been me that he hurt I would have forgiven him almost instantly.

Jorge had already left for church this morning and I was standing in the kitchen washing up breakfast mess. I was thinking about how I didn't want to see this guy today and I swear I heard this voice in my head (I know, sounds like I need to be institutionalized) as clear as if someone were standing beside me talking:

If you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.

Okay, Lord, I got it! I felt so humiliated. I stood there and cried. This wasn't even my grevience and I was upset. Isn't it amazing when you hear Him?

BTW, I saw my friend, gave him a huge, long hug and we both understood. Jorge was pleasantly shocked!